This year has been the craziest, hardest, most rewarding of my life. In January I got a promotion at work, changed location, took on a new role. I was settling into that role and learning new aspects of the job when in February, surprise! I found out I was pregnant.
Much of the year was then focused on pregnancy. I did everything I possibly could to help bub grow and thrive. Those first few months I was wracked with anxiety because I just wanted a baby so badly I was terrified of doing anything that would jeopardise that. I took my prenatal vitamins religiously, which is unheard of for me. I never ever remember to take my vitamins consistently. I stopped eating unpasteurised cheese, soft serve icecream, red meat. I remember just feeling so vulnerable, so sure I’d mess this up somehow. I caught covid at 6 weeks pregnant and I’ve never felt worse. I was sure that was the end. I was so miserable. But I got over it and crossed my fingers until my 13 week scan.
Everything was perfect, I heard that little heartbeat for the first time and I cried. We chose not to find out baby’s sex. The first few months I was convinced I was having a boy. For the life of me, I couldn’t choose a boys name. We took a baby moon to Santorini when I was 25 weeks pregnant and let me just remind myself to NEVER do that again. The long flight, the heat, the lack of public transport. Nope, never again. Not my best idea and really not relaxing. But I’m glad we took one last vacation just the two of us. It’s in Santorini that I feel the baby kick for the first time and I can breathe again for the first time in months. They’re okay, as long as I can feel kicking. Things got harder as pregnancy progressed, I got more tired, my body was more worn out. I stopped working a 40hour week at 27weeks and cut down to 25 hours instead. How I managed to keep that up until 35 weeks IN RETAIL, I’ll never know. Regardless, I did it.
The weight gain aspect of pregnancy was tough for me. I didn’t feel like myself. I tried to mentally prepare myself for motherhood but I couldn’t grasp it. I have this thing where nothing is real and tangible to me until it’s actually happening. I had no way to prepare besides getting a crib, buying what was needed for a baby. I couldn’t picture what my life was gonna be like after birth. I didn’t know who I’d be, how I’d be, if I was even capable of being a mom. All I knew was that I felt all this love for this baby growing inside me and I wanted them to have the best life. I wanted to give them the world. I hoped that for now, that would be enough.
At 37 weeks my little nugget is still laying horizontally, right under my lungs. They’ve gotten pretty sizeable and breathing is increasingly difficult, sleep is impossible. Baby is not making it easy on momma. We try to move the baby externally. PAIN. It doesn’t make a difference. This baby has no intentions of moving into a head down position. They’ve maintained the same position since the 13 week scan, I don’t think they ever switched it up. A stubborn little thing, just like mom. Somewhere around the babymoon I change my mind, I’m getting strong girl vibes because I feel like I can tell the personality better, like I know them better.
I got booked in for a c section and that was a lot. It wasn’t how I imagined giving birth but I had never ruled it out. On November 1st I gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl. Her birth has given me so much trauma I’m not yet ready to unpack, but god, I’d do it all again for her. She’s my hopes and dreams come true. She’s my life’s work. None of the stupid things I did in the past matter because everything has led to this point. I’ve never felt a love like the one I have for her and every day has been incredible. Watching her grow is a privilege. I still look at her and I can’t believe she’s real. Almost 9 weeks of loving her, learning with her. She has the best little personality and I intend to nurture that. I hope she’ll always be this happy. I promise to her every day that I’ll always give her my all and I haven’t failed yet, even with the newborn exhaustion. She deserves the world. For the very first time in my life I feel content. I know I’m good at being her mama. Im self assured for the first time ever. I’m so excited for 2023 because I get to spend it with my little love, I couldn’t ask for more.